Conscious Relationship Quality Number 1:
Also called ‘owning your shit’.
Radical responsibility necessitates taking possession of your own limitations and admitting that your short-comings:
- The areas where you can do better
- The relationship skills you Want to enhance
- Your activates, past hurts, unhelpful coping mechanisms, along with your own neurotic and compulsive behaviours.
Because there is no poisonous behaviour that can not be unlearnt. No ability that can not be enhanced. No challenge that can not be worked out. So long since you are prepared to hold to a high standard and perform the job.
The difficulty with this is our patriotic relationship bags tends to lurks within our blindspots. Which with its name makes it difficult to see.
Radical responsibility thus requires another level self-awareness:
You need to be inclined to appear and develop. To always develop your emotional intelligence, your communication abilities, along with your ability to comprehend and empathise.
Radical responsibility means accepting 100% possession for the 50percent of their connection.
And if this is not hard enough, owning your limits is simply the start.
Radical obligation also means taking possession of what you would like.
Which is unbelievably hard.
From the day we are born we are subject to the constant conditioning of culture, society, and the press. We’re told how to live our own lives, and what our relationships must look like.
This makes it difficult to distinguish between what you really desire, and what exactly you are assumed to desire.
It’s also exceptionally vulnerable:
You need to demonstrate your true self, leaving you open to rejection and criticism.
And even if you may identify exactly what you would like, we are taught to prioritise different people’s needs above our own as a way to become a ‘good person’ plus also a ‘good partner’.
Maintaining the status quo feels just like the safer (but tiring ) option.
Yet that is the way we ‘lose ourselves’ in associations — by forfeiting our awareness of self for your own comfort and safety of relationships which ultimately do not serve us.