Last week, I was honored to have been selected to speak at the Ignite San Diego event. What is Ignite San Diego you ask? GREAT question, and honestly, I had never even heard of these types of events before, but someone on twitter suggested I apply to present, so I looked more into it. Ignite events are like TED talks, except the presentations are only 5 minutes long, with 20 slides that are each auto timed for 15 seconds. The slogan is “Enlighten Us, Just Make It Quick”. So I applied with my “I’m Too Short To Date…Statistically Speaking” content, and I was one of the 18 people selected out of the pool of over 50 people who applied. AWESOME! Like super legit, kind of surprised, totes excited. Now what. The hardest part for me was creating the content that would fit within the 5 minute constraints (that’s what she said). And in addition to that, each slide whether you like it or not only last 15 seconds. So you have to be prepared to tell your story in increments of 15 seconds. SUPER HARD for me because I fucking love to talk. I really, like unnaturally, like public speaking. I would rather speak to a group of 100 people, than try and “spit game” to a girl one on one. I mean I’m not awkward (maybe just the tip) in one on one or smaller group settings, I just really like speaking to big groups. And I’m not awful at it? I really wish I did more of it, either for my career or outside involvements. I was nervous, but really excited to present my content to the 300 plus people that were there at the event.
But my biggest hesitation I had about doing this presentation was actually that I was going to have to present in real life, to real people about my internet persona. Meaning they wouldn’t just see my avatar, they would see my REAL FACE!? It was actually kind of a weird realization when I showed up to the first presenters prep meeting, and you go around the room and you introduce yourself. I felt dumb saying out loud that I was the Single Steve guy. It was kind of embarrassing? I’m not embarrassed about my blog, I just never (rarely. Okay sometimes when drinking) speak about my blog to people in real life. I promote the shit out of my blog on the internet (as Single Steve), but would never (rarely. Okay sometimes when drinking) tell someone in real life (or real facebook) to go read my blog.
I’ve used an avatar since I started this blog and there is no association to my real name anywhere on this site. And yes some people have found my real facebook profile, and that’s fine, but for the most part I’ve tried to separate my real face and name from this blog. At first it was because I wanted to write anonymously about people I knew, and then it was because I got a grown up job, and now it’s because I actual feel like I can be a better “writer” if I’m this “Single Steve” avatar, and not “Real Life Steven”. A better writer in terms of my openness, honesty, and sharing my jaded perspective on dating. If that make sense.
And I guarantee nobody actually cares about what I actually look like, as much as I’ve tried to hide it from this site. And who knows, maybe this will be a new thing? Like maybe I’ll start making youtube videos? Probably not.